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Mythbusting: fur fetishism and relationships

Postby mrmockle » Mon Jun 10, 2013 1:17 pm

All,

This is a general topic that comes up in fetish forums of all sorts regularly, particularly in fur fetish communities. It's a simple question: "how can I find a partner who loves fur too?"

Many fur lovers - indeed many of you too - may be single but have long wished to find that perfect partner to complete your life and happiness. Some of you may be in a relationship already, although in one where your happiness is incomplete because your love for fur is not shared by your significant other, or at least as much as you want. So maybe, more accurately we can break the initial question into three different ones for different individuals and circumstances:

1: "How can I find a partner who loves fur?"
2: "How can I get my current partner to like/wear fur?"
3: "My partner doesn't like fur - what should I do?"

Over the coming day and weeks we'll try to examine each question separately, look at a few initial answers and responses and try to suggest a range of possible courses of action, hopefully dispelling a few common misconceptions along the way too. Where other questions or related issues arise, we'll park those and deal with them later or separately as well.

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Re: Mythbusting: fur fetishism and relationships

Postby mrmockle » Tue Jun 11, 2013 10:04 am

Question 1: "How can I find a partner who loves fur?"

A great number of single fur fans - predominantly but not solely male ones - ask this question on forums at some stage - and understandably so. They love fur and they want someone to share that love with, especially someone who also loves fur as much as they do. So: how should they go about looking for that special someone, and importantly, where should they start looking? That largely depends on who they are looking for.

Let's start with the assumption that a single fur-loving man is looking for a single fur-loving woman. Myth no. 1 is that a specialised fur fetish forum is the best place to find a single woman into fur. It isn't - by a long way. Almost all of the members of any fur forum ever have been male and a post asking for local fur-loving women to contact you is unlikely to be seen by any interested women, especially if your post contains next to no information about you or seems "dodgy" in itself.

While there have been some genuine female members over the years and various fur forums that have existed, almost all were/are already in relationships (often introduced to the forum by their existing partner) or are not genuine profiles/people. By "not genuine profiles/people" I mean that the profile or persona may appear to be a single woman, but often it is a man pretending to be female for various reasons - although not a genuine trasngendered person (see: this could get complex!) - maybe for spamming, trolling or whatever.

When genuine single fur-loving females have joined and introduced themselves on such forums, they are usually overwhelmed with requests and messages from male members - many unwelcome, unrealistic or downright obscene - which usually result in the female member being scared away from future contact with such members, or even that community as a whole. A common misconception - or Myth no. 2 - that some male fur fans have is that all women who like or wear fur feel about it in exactly the same way as they (the men) do, especially regarding its sensual and sexual appeal. This leads those men to assume that all female members of such forums always wear and play with their furs sexually, and would be happy to do so with any man who also likes furs. Making contact with such women under the influence of those illusions often helps to distance the female members from the wider, more rational and realistic, male membership. It is sad that these things have and continue to happen, but they do.

So where should a single guy find a single girl who likes fur? Well my advice is to do it the old fashioned way. Switch off your computer and go out there and meet people socially away from the virtual world. True, you may not live in a part of the world where many women wear fur or discuss fur often or readily, but you may be surprised at what you do discover - and whom. "Nothing ventured, nothing gained" as the saying goes. You might even find someone who is a perfect match in every other way and who also feels the same about you, although the subject of fur is never discussed or raised - leading on to Question 2 later.

An alternative approach is to use other sites more devoted to finding relationships, although the mainstream dating sites may frown upon members display such directly sexual preferences in their profiles and communication with other members. Another possibility, if you have other fetishes and kinky passions, is to try a more general fetish contact site or meeting place. Other fetish sites do seem to have a much larger proportion of female members and while they might not list fur as one of their preferences they may be happy to consider its uses if related to other passions they also enjoy.
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